At some point during my pregnancy someone mentioned "mommy brain" to me as I struggled with a word during a conversation. They promised that it would get better after the pregnancy...that once the baby was out, I wouldn't need to share those brain cells. I thought that the woman telling me this was
So here I am with a blog that was intended to be a vehicle for me to share my thoughts on motherhood and life in general and it takes me flipping forever to write one post. I sit down to write the post during my son's morning nap, but my brain isn't working right. I don't know what to say or how to describe what I am feeling and I end up typing and deleting, typing and deleting, typing and deleting. Now S is up and I get to be (actively engaged, computer away) Mom! A couple hours later S is back down for another nap and I open my computer and start typing again. I reread what I wrote earlier that day and end up editing or deleting much of it...second guessing my word choice, phrasing, and any attempt at humor. At this point I start beating myself up for even thinking I should have a blog and that clearly I do not have the gift for writing nor have anything all that important or different to say. I try to remind myself that I am writing this for me, not anyone else, and that the point is to get the emotion on the "paper" and out of my head. At this point S is up and it is time to be Mom again. I am so grateful that he is up because it means I get to have "permission" to not write. I usually don't return to my writing until after S is in bed for the night. I am pretty clear on what I want to say at this point, despite some concerns that I am not nearly funny enough nor interesting enough to be a blogger, so I get the post finished and hit publish.
So why do I put myself through this? I do it because I really want to be a blogger...not to make money writing kind of blogger, but the kind that shares her heart with the world and connects with other people who feel the same way. At the same time I want this blog to be a way for me to look back at my time as a mom and remember all the things I did with S and the emotions that came with them. But deep down, I also want this blog because it is a mental challenge right now. It is forcing me to use this brain of mine in a way that teaching did for me. I am learning a new set of vocabulary. I am forced to recall words that I would have used normally on a daily while teaching, but don't get used since I am spending most of my day talking with a 5 month old. I am growing.
So yes, I am losing my brain, but through this blog I will be gaining it back.